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May 26, 2014 -

Dear Sexi Sami,

This question is not really a sex question, but a gender question. I'm a guy who has been cross dressing since I was young and now I'm considering HRT. Right now I'm kinda on the fence whether or not I should go through with it. I'm okay with living as a man or a women, so either way I would still be happy with myself. I need help on how to deal with situation.

Signed, Anonymous

Sexi Sami Sez: It sounds like you are at an important juncture in your life, and are looking for direction. And you’re smart to want to be certain about HRT since some of its effects are permanent. Your question is beyond the scope of the column, as nobody can tell you what you should/need to do but yourself. However, I can leave you with these suggestions . . .

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